How many times do you look at everything you have to do but you just can’t be bothered, and maybe you even think or say to yourself ‘I don’t have the energy!’? There’s so much to do every day, work is draining – it feels like all you have the energy to do is get up, go to work, come home, eat, sleep and repeat.
It’s so easy to stop doing the things we enjoy and get stuck in the rut of doing what ‘needs to be done’. For many people, they get caught up doing things for others, over doing things for themselves and have forgotten how to have fun. How to make time for themselves.
It’s not only the things we do that take up our time, what about all the time we spend thinking about what we need to do? Do you notice that you think a lot about things before you do them? You get caught up in your thinking, or in analysing everything that you’re doing, whether it’s going on a date; or to work, or catching up with friends?
There was a time when I would struggle so much to get up in the morning, hitting snooze a number of times until I was running late for work. I’d grab a coffee on the way to the office (that will wake me up!!), I’d struggle through the day (especially after lunch!). It all seemed so monotonous – the same thing again and again. Then I’d get home and I would have a list of things to do, but I’d end up on the couch doing nothing. Especially now that it’s even easy to find alternatives to making food, by ordering food online to be delivered in the next 30 minutes, and it seems there’s unlimited viewing options to choose from at your fingertips.
No Matter How Much I Rested, I Still Felt Tired
Why is it that we have so many more conveniences now, yet we still feel tired? Aren’t they supposed to be saving us time? Tinder – saving time dating. UberEats – saving time making food. SMS – saving time calling people – and the list goes on. How many apps do you have on your phone that are supposed to be ‘time-saving’? Things have been made so easy and convenient for us, but yet, instead of having more energy, we have less energy.
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I used to feel like I was always tired. I felt like by the time the weekend came around, those two days wasn’t enough to revive me. I’d sleep in and have naps and I still didn’t feel full of energy! I’d make plans to go out and exercise but I didn’t do it because I was still too tired.
Show Me The Energy!
A friend of mine was fed up with me talking about having no energy and said to me ‘Show me energy’. I started doing star jumps and they said ‘No no no, you’re showing me star jumps, show me energy’. I thought about it some more, and so I started grinning, I put a big smile on my face. My friend said ‘No, wrong again, that’s a smile. Show me energy’. I was stumped, I stood still for a bit, but I didn’t know, ‘How do I show you energy?’. ‘Exactly!’ they replied ‘You can’t show me energy because energy is internal, it’s something you feel inside. You can’t go to the supermarket and find it on the shelves’.
Let me ask you, when you’re tired, what do you focus on? It’s interesting because our intuitive mind wants to get us what we want. It’s like a laser-beam directing us to our desires, it will draw our attention to examples or ways to get us what are looking for. I’ll give you an example. I have a friend that wanted a pink Volkswagen. I told her that they don’t exist. ‘There’s no such thing as a pink Volkswagen, I’ve never seen one before’. The next day I saw a pink Volkswagen, then another one the next day; before long I was seeing them all the time! Just the mention of pink Volkswagons brought them to my awareness, and therefore, I started to pay attention when I’d see them. So we influence what we focus on, and what we focus on increases.
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How does that relate to having no energy?
When we say something to ourselves, or out loud, it brings that thing closer to our awareness; we start to focus on it more, and so we notice it more often. So sometimes when we say we’re tired, we may really be tired. But what about all the times we say it when we are overwhelmed, or have had a really busy day, and saying it doesn’t make us feel better but makes us feel worse – or even more tired.
So when I used to say ‘I have no energy’, my mind would start looking for all the examples to support this statement. I was bringing into my awareness more ways I could prove that I was tired.
When I realised this, I started to change my language. As soon as I caught myself about to say ‘I’m tired’, I would instead say something like ‘I’m recuperating’, or ‘my energy is increasing’. This would help my subconscious mind find me evidence of my energy increasing. I’d change what I’d say to help support me increasing my awareness of the examples to be alert, aware and increase my energy.
Some days I’d notice it in little things that I did, like I know that my energy is increasing because I’m smiling. I feel more energised because I can move my feet my around below my desk. I would make it really really easy for myself to find evidence that I was alert. Sometimes it was instantly noticeable, sometimes not, but over time I noticed that I felt more lively; more aware. I wasn’t saying to people that I was tired.
Here’s How You Train Yourself
I’ve already mentioned one of the things I do to train myself to see that I have more energy, I’ve changed a little bit of the way I express myself. To help me remember to do this, I have a quote and picture as the wallpaper on my phone screen and laptop. I also have a post-it note with a message I want to remember on my bathroom mirror (because I look at it first thing in the morning). The post-it note says something like ‘Notice how your energy is increasing’. I’ve even made silent alarms on my phone to pop up during the day to remind me to have a stretch, and focus on the good points of how I’m feeling.
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To take care of myself, I plan my recovery. I find recovering from your day is so important, but even though people might know that they need a night off, do they really take the night off? Or do they spend the night on Facebook, or helping out a friend with a problem, or end up doing housework, or they get online and do some extra research for a project their working on.
I used to do this, but when I decided to make these changes, I sat down and thought about the ways that I like to recover, and nowadays I set aside time and do them. For some people it helps to be around other people to recover or re-energise. For me, I like recovering on my own, in my own space.
Find Your Ideal Recovery Activity
When you’ve had a busy week and you know you need to take some recovery time, plan what you’re going to be doing, and do it. I recover by having a bath, or reading a book, or watching a movie, taking my bike for a ride. I have a lot of different ways that I can recover and I don’t always do the same thing. I like to vary it and do a little bit of each of them. Sometimes, every now and then, I like to recover with other people, so I invite a friend out for a coffee or go to dinner. Some people that like hanging out with people when they recover have a lot of activities they go do.
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Melisa was stuck in sadness for 15 years, hated her job, was overweight and her relationship had just ended. Melisa inspires people with her story and now teaches how she sorted her life out. She worked out how to be happy and how to lose over 30kg of body weight. In simple steps she teaches how you can stop procrastinating, find confidence, stop being so sad and finally start to find true meaning and purpose in your life.
Some people love meditating or the feeling of just being still or the feeling of the grass underneath their feet. If that’s you, recover by doing that. I also love music and find it’s a great way to get us into a different state, so I have songs that I play that help me to feel like I have more energy. So when I’m listening to the songs that are catchy and make me smile, I tend to move around, and dance or sing. The more I move my body, the more energised I feel.
Getting up in the morning sets you up for the day…. Maybe consider not pressing snooze but sitting up and putting your feet on the ground… I have a friend who stretches and moves his body when he first wakes up and takes in deep breaths to get started for the day. Some people go for a run, walk their dog. When I’m out and about, or at work, and I just want to kind of feel a burst of energy, or like feel like I want to wake myself up a little bit more, I bounce up and down on the spot, I stretch and take in a few deep breaths.
Increasing energy happens through little changes and awareness over time. Every little positive change helps us move forward, so keep going – and share your achievements, even the little ones!
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