Do you ever want to make an amazing first impression so much, that you start to overthink it? Have you felt the pressure of wanting to put your best foot forward so much, that you start to put unrealistic expectations of perfection on yourself? Whether you’re dating, going to an interview or you simply want to meet new people, make some new friends or talk to someone you admire, have you been putting it off because it’s too hard?
Do you protect yourself by keeping a safe distance from people or pushing them away? Have you noticed that you tend to have your guard up when meeting new people and you want to feel more at ease? Do you want to have deeper and more meaningful connections with people, but you’re holding yourself back? Do you want to let people in and increase the quality of connections you make, whether it’s with your friends,
Are you like I used to be and find it difficult talking to new people, difficult to start a conversation easily? I see people all the time starting conversations easily. On the bus or tram, in job interviews or on a first date, but I used to struggle.
I was so shy and unconfident. I had a few friends, but I thought it might make it easier for me to enjoy going to the gym,
Oh my goodness, this is so me. I am the queen of feeling socially awkward!
I feel like I say the wrong thing all the time, at least, I certainly used to. Nowadays, the people I meet cannot believe that I used to struggle in social situations.
I would avoid parties and group functions. If there was a likelihood of there being more than three people at an event, then chances were, I wouldn’t go.
Have you ever found yourself sitting at home on your own while your friends are out and thought, ‘What would it be like to be confident’? What would it be like to be able to go for that job interview (for that dream job), to walk through the doors of a new gym, to travel to a new country or to speak up in a crowd without a million thoughts going through your head.
Why is it so easy for some people but not for you?
Every day, I would look out the window as I travelled on my long journey home after work… thinking there must be something more to my life…but what is it? What is it that there is something more of – to locate, to find, to search, to create? And I knew that I was worth more than this – but how on earth do I find it? Where do I go? What do I do?
I used to feel really unhappy inside myself. Life was quite lonely without a partner, especially on Friday Night when everybody is hanging out. If I’m not hanging out with friends I feel quite lonely and I have nobody to share my life with. I used to live inside my head and I think I made different barriers for myself. The reason why I’m not going for a new relationship is.. I’m thinking what my parents want.