I was lucky I guess. I had an amazing family growing up. I had everything. Well, not everything I ever wanted, we weren’t super rich, but we weren’t poor either. I grew up in the country. I had a yard to play in, I had enough clothes to wear, I could go to the movies and out bowling. We had dinner on the table every night. I had parents who loved me, and I had an older brother to teach me.
How many times do you catch yourself saying yes to something you don’t really want to do? Going out with friends when you really want to stay in and have an early night. Helping someone move house when you have a project or assignment due. Going to dinner with family or friends when you would prefer to spend the money on something else. Picking up the phone and listening to a friend talk about the things going on in their life when you have things you of your own to deal with.
How many times do you look at everything you have to do but you just can’t be bothered, and maybe you even think or say to yourself ‘I don’t have the energy!’? There’s so much to do every day, work is draining – it feels like all you have the energy to do is get up, go to work, come home, eat, sleep and repeat.
It’s so easy to stop doing the things we enjoy and get stuck in the rut of doing what ‘needs to be done’.
When you’re focussed, everything seems to flow and come together neatly. But when you’re not focussed, you find yourself thinking of five things at once and you end up being so preoccupied with everything that you still need to do, that you end up missing the turn off when you’re on your way home. Sound familiar?
Have you ever missed appointments, evenings with friends or stopped doing the things you love because you’re trying to get everything else done?
We face problems everyday; small things like “What if I’m late for work?” “Can I have a burger for lunch today, or should I stick to a salad?”, but we also face more prominent issues like “What if I don’t like my new job?” or “What if I don’t have enough money for bills?”.
There is uncertainty in life all the time. Things are changing and you’re not always going to be sure what will happen next.
Have you ever found yourself wanting to be brave in a moment? Did you ever wish you could feel a little stronger when you’re walking into a room of people you don’t know, or showing up at a job interview? Ever wanted to stand up to someone at work, or speak your mind to a family member? Even something as seemingly little as meeting a personal trainer or going to a new gym class might require a bit of bravery.
Life is busy. There’s so much to do. Go to work, pay the bills, catch up with family and friends, plan ahead, not to mention all the apps on our phones with notifications every few minutes letting us know what someone posted on Facebook. We have an event coming up or have to make sure you rsvp to your friends birthday, emails, SMS, Snapchat. The list goes on and on.
How technology affects us
There was a time before technology got as advanced as it is,
So there I was, sitting miserable, on my couch. For years, I’d been doing my absolute best to do well in life. I had made every effort, I’d tried everything, but nothing had ever worked out. I was single. I was lonely. I didn’t feel there was anybody I could turn to, so I isolated myself. That way I could prove to myself that no one cared.
Nobody cared. Nobody loved me. There was no way out.